He blamed the stars. She blamed his Mars.

It’s easy to blame the sky when love fractures. The stars feel distant, powerful—perfect scapegoats for broken promises. When trust slips, pointing to astrology can soothe the sting. Perhaps you’ve done it yourself, looking to Venus or Mars, searching for an explanation that lies beyond your control. But while the cosmos may offer context, it rarely holds all the answers.

Your birth chart reveals more than timing; it speaks of tendencies, patterns, and responses. When someone highlights your Mars, they aren’t just naming a planet. They’re identifying a force—desire, drive, intensity—that lives within you. If Mars aligns with impulsive signs or forms sharp angles to other personal planets, it can suggest a quick temper, strong urges, or a need for excitement that overrides caution. These energies don’t demand betrayal, but they do nudge you toward risk, especially when unexamined.

Likewise, Venus under pressure may shift your emotional landscape. A strained Venus in your chart can suggest inner conflict between longing for connection and craving space or novelty. External attention might suddenly feel irresistible. That doesn’t mean you’re ruled by the heavens, but it does mean you may be more vulnerable during certain cycles—when attraction spikes, or when dissatisfaction quietly takes root.

Still, no chart forces action. Astrology maps potential, not outcomes. The tension between what the sky reflects and what you choose defines your experience. Yes, transits and aspects may create storms, but how you sail through them is your own story.

If love strayed, it wasn’t only fate’s doing. The pull came from both above and within. The cosmos can’t carry the full weight of responsibility, just as you don’t carry it alone. The truth of why love unraveled lives in both the stars and the choices you made under them.